Yeah, people still have this strange obsession with blood. I've heard things like, you need to pass down your genes and your bloodline... family is blood... blah blah blah. I respond by saying that my dearest, most beloved grandma wasn't even related to me by blood - she was the grandmother of my half brother. She was there for me and took care of me better than most of my blood family, and I have far more fond memories of my childhood with regards to her than with anyone else. I often forget that we're not actually related. And the same goes for my siblings, who are all only half related to me. They are my brothers and sister, and I usually forget that we're only half related. In this day and age, society is moving away from the family in terms of blood lines being the strongest bond. People keep close friends through their entire lives, we have single parents and gay parents and half/step families... it's hopefully just a matter of time before society starts to also accept that bloodline isn't the only thing necessary to create family.
Llamas, I agree with you. IF I ever would like to have a child, I feel that adopting would be so much better - if I really want a child, why can't I help out some unwanted/orphaned one instead of adding another one to the population. The only reason I can see at the moment for having my own child is the curiosity to see what it would look like.
Is that the book about the child with severe sociopathic tendencies? I've been meaning to read that one. And the "selfish" thing drives me nuts. Personally, at this time, I'm happier giving back to society through work I really believe in and helping many people. Raising a child to me isn't how I want to help society. I'm baffled by people who consider raising a child to be their life's work. There's so much more to this world. People who quit work to raise a child are the selfish ones, in my view.
If anyone has ever read We Need to Talk About Kevin by Lionel Shriver (or seen the film), there's a lot in that book that I could really understand (she doesn't want to have kids, and then oops, she does). It's not just that I'm "selfish"(I hate when people use this argument about not wanting children. Like, what?!) and I want all the freedom and none of the responsibility, but I just don't think I would be a good mother.