Deciding to get to know someone

[bighead384]

When I meet someone, I am generally hopeful that they will potentially be my friend unless they do something to make me think less of them. If they fail to catch my interest after an extended period of time, I'll write them off as boring, but I'm pretty patient with that. Aside from that, I will remain hopeful unless they give me a reason to dislike them. However, I have the suspicion that this isn't how most people think. It seems as though most people don't even care to get to know a person unless they've managed to stand out. If this is the case, I don't quite understand this mentality and perhaps it would help if I did. Hopefully I can elaborate more as the thread goes on...

Side Note: I sometimes wonder if all my social interactions are largely unrelatable because I'm from New Jersey, arguably the asshole capital of the world.

[Rilex]

Hold on, think for a minute....
How many people that you haven't met gives a crap what you think bout them?
well, not me...

[mrconeman]

What if they're black?

[bighead384]

What if they're black?

Jesus christ man, give it a rest.

[Llamas]

When I meet someone, I am generally hopeful that they will potentially be my friend unless they do something to make me think less of them. If they fail to catch my interest after an extended period of time, I'll write them off as boring, but I'm pretty patient with that. Aside from that, I will remain hopeful unless they give me a reason to dislike them.

Um, of all the people out there, there's a small percentage that any person is likely to click with, and most of us don't keep a close grip on a super large number of friends. So I'm pretty sure it's natural to not assume that every new person you meet is hopefully a new friend. One of every like 50 people I meet on a day-to-day basis is likely to be friend-material. I don't care if they "stand out"; I care if they're someone I wanna be friends with. Similar interests. Good, interesting conversation. Why should I bother making efforts to make friends with everyone I meet, when I know only like 2% of them are ever gonna be possible friends? I make an effort when I see a reason to make an effort.

[bighead384]

I see what you're saying, but it's not like you have anything to lose if you try to make a small effort to get to know someone. I'm definitely not talking about making this huge effort for every person you meet or anything. It just seems like many people give off signals that show that they aren't very open to getting to know someone. Maybe in some cases, it's because people like to appear confident and important, and I guess part of that is acting like people should make the effort for YOU and not the other way around.

But then again (and I know it's the epitome of pleasure for some of you to hear this), maybe it's just me.

[Isolated Fury]

But then again (and I know it's the epitome of pleasure for some of you to hear this), maybe it's just me.

I just came.

No offense meant. Just cashing in on the joke.

[KickHimWhenHe'sDown]

Sometimes I don't feel like getting to know someone, even if they're really nice and all. Sometimes I feel like being quiet. If you make too many friends, you spend too much time trying to talk to all of them. At least that is what I find.

[bighead384]

If you make too many friends, you spend too much time trying to talk to all of them. At least that is what I find.

I'm aware of this, but I never really thought about how much of an impact this can have in this situation. I'm glad you said this.

[Lord Phidias]

I try only to befriend people as good looking as me. Why would you want to spend time with uglies?