Harley, you've got yourself a tricky situation for sure. Ignoring her until she gets the hint is not going to work in this situation, obviously. The best thing, even though it won't be pleasant, might be to actually tell her some of the things you told us, try to make her understand how you feel and why you feel the way you do. There is a small chance you two could work out your issues through conversation, but most likely it would end the friendship. Either way though, you're moving forward. Maybe write her a letter/email about how you feel?