Are you happy?

[Offspring-Junkie]

Maybe this question sounds stupid, but have you ever known someone, who said "I'm happy!"? Are you happy yourself? Sorry for this, but it's really bothering me.

[MrJoe]

I've had a girlfriend say that.

[Nina]

Yeah, I have an e-friend who calls herself happy. I'm very glad for her, she has an exciting/nice life.

[killer_queen]

I'm happy. Not all the time but generally, yes, I am. Why? Why is this bothering you?

[ninthlayer]

My throat hurts, fags.

[Whiplash]

Want me to greese it up for you?

[Offspring-Junkie]

I'm happy. Not all the time but generally, yes, I am. Why? Why is this bothering you?
Because I've never heard anybody say that and I think that's remarkable.

[bananaphone]

You've never heard anyone say that they're happy? Odd.

I don't really hear it a lot, but I've heard it before, and said it.

[wheelchairman]

People who aren't happy but posess the means to make themselves happy, just piss me off.

[Tizzalicious]

Are you saying you don't know anyone who is happy?

I am happy. Sure there are things that make me less happy than I could be, but in general, I am as happy as I could be.

[Grabbal]

I'm happy whenever I'm not in school.

[Sinister]

I'm not really happy, but I know I'll be happier later in my life and that keeps me going.

[ilovellamas]

I'm happy. I wasn't really for about 19 years, but the last 3 have been amazing. I'm rarely truly unhappy. I'm surprised you don't know anyone who's happy. And, with the exception of people that Per mentioned, I generally feel bad for those who aren't.

[endlesst0m]

People who aren't happy but posess the means to make themselves happy, just piss me off.
I guess....this is true if you can somehow confirm for sure that a person has the means to make themselves happy. But it's important to note that just because a person seems fairly privelidged to you, doesn't mean you know what the hell else is going on in thier life and inside thier mind.

[wheelchairman]

It's not a matter of being privelidged. Essentially it's a matter of how much freedom your life allows you, and how much you've allowed your life to give you as well.

[endlesst0m]

Are you saying you don't know anyone who is happy?

I am happy. Sure there are things that make me less happy than I could be, but in general, I am as happy as I could be.

Your avatar fits this post.

[Eccentric Sara]

I haven't really been that happy since I was 10.:( This is mainly due to a combination of shitty treatment from other ppl (bullying at school,etc) and mental health problems.I have had OCD since I was 10,which seriously screws with my life,and have depression for a few years aswell,so my not being happy is largely due to a chemical deficiency in the brain. Oh well.The meds are helping,plus I am on a waiting list for therapy.I envy ppl who are happy most of the time! I don't know how they manage it...:confused:

[HeadAroundU]

HAU gives a hug (no bullying) to Sara to make her happy.

[JohnnyNemesis]

I'm only happy when I'm not reading Sara's posts.

Ohh, just kidding!

I'm too trupunx, so I'm nevar happylifeizPAIN! no mor hope 4 betta dayz.

[Izie]

I'll be happier tonight, when my exam is done.

I'll be even happier tomorrow, when I get to shop and relax and go out with people.

I hope I'll be the happiest when I get my grades *nerd*

Anyway you put it, my level of happiness has been increasing lately, with minor downs every once in a while, but nothing worth mentioning. I'm so happy I even seriously reply to random threads!

[wheelchairman]

Speaking of happiness. I got a high mark for my economics essay. Take that educational institutes, I never attended a lecture!

the other essay got an "ok". Which is fine, much better than "adequate" like some people got.

[Eccentric Sara]

HAU gives a hug (no bullying) to Sara to make her happy.
Haha:D Getting the font like that must have taken u ages! Even I couldn't be arsed to do that!lol
And if the hug was genuine,*hugs back*.:)

And I am not trying to be "truepunx" or whatever.Lots of ppl have depression,and it is not necessarliy related to culture/musical tastes -I would never describe myself as goth,emo or even punk really!(I like punk music,not the punk lifestyle!) I don't make a conscious effort to be depressed,as being down sucks.My other post wasn't melodramatic.I'm just telling things how they really are.

[Great Mike]

Haha:D Getting the font like that must have taken u ages! Even I couldn't be arsed to do that!lol
And if the hug was genuine,*hugs back*.:)

And I am not trying to be "truepunx" or whatever.Lots of ppl have depression,and it is not necessarliy related to culture/musical tastes -I would never describe myself as goth,emo or even punk really!(I like punk music,not the punk lifestyle!) I don't make a conscious effort to be depressed,as being down sucks.My other post wasn't melodramatic.I'm just telling things how they really are.

White makes people happier, no kidding.

@weelchairman: I need some economical info. about Croatia.

[wheelchairman]

Croatia was more industrialized along with Slovenia, during communism. That was the foundation for why they are much richer than Serbia/Bosnia etc. Allowed for them to create a budding tourist industry as well.

That's all I know, and it's facts this time.

[Great Mike]

Croatia was more industrialized along with Slovenia, during communism. That was the foundation for why they are much richer than Serbia/Bosnia etc. Allowed for them to create a budding tourist industry as well.

That's all I know, and it's facts this time.

I didn't want facts this time but the first one.:mad:

[bananaphone]

I haven't really been that happy since I was 10.:( This is mainly due to a combination of shitty treatment from other ppl (bullying at school,etc) and mental health problems.I have had OCD since I was 10,which seriously screws with my life,and have depression for a few years aswell,so my not being happy is largely due to a chemical deficiency in the brain. Oh well.The meds are helping,plus I am on a waiting list for therapy.I envy ppl who are happy most of the time! I don't know how they manage it...:confused:

I have an anger disorder and a lot of shit has really sucked in my life (like it does in everyone's). I am still a generally happy person, and I get enjoyment out of a lot of things. The only time I'm ever really sad is when I dwell on the things that suck.

[Marco]

I'm soooooooooo depressed.
But I'm sure things will change in September...I'll have changed school, I'll have much more time to go around with friends, more time for tennis too.
But now I'm fucking depressed :(

[0r4ng3]

I'm only happy when I'm in my misery.

kewl 2 h8!!! :mad:

[Harnum]

I'm pretty much happy I guess. There's not too much going on now that really makes me sad.

[Eccentric Sara]

I have an anger disorder and a lot of shit has really sucked in my life (like it does in everyone's). I am still a generally happy person, and I get enjoyment out of a lot of things. The only time I'm ever really sad is when I dwell on the things that suck.
Yeah,I do dwell on the past too much sometimes.:( Tis mainly my OCD that gets me down though,as it is a problem I have to deal with every day and it affects most aspects of my life,making it more difficult to do some things that non-OCD sufferers take for granted. I don't envy you for having an anger disorder tho! It's cool that you've managed to carry on with your life in spite of it.:)

[Paint_It_Black]

I'm don't trust people who say they're happy.

[killer_queen]

May I ask why?

[Bazza]

I wouldn't say "happy", more like content with life. I have nothing serious to moan about, just the usual worries that bother most people.

[Paint_It_Black]

Well I was exaggerating. But in my experience a lot of people who want you to think they're happy are anything but. Some of the most depressed people I've known acted like the happiest people in the world.

[ilovellamas]

Well I was exaggerating. But in my experience a lot of people who want you to think they're happy are anything but. Some of the most depressed people I've known acted like the happiest people in the world.

Well, of course you'll have that. It's usually pretty easy to tell whether or not they're lying, though. That doesn't annoy me as much as the people Per described, though, who act all sad and unhappy but really shouldn't be and are just sitting on their pity pot.

[killer_queen]

And is that supposed to be a bad thing? I really hate people who always look unhappy. I don't care if they are really sad or not. If they are my friends they know that I care and feel bad for them and I think it's so selfish to do it. I don't know, I always try to look happy even though I am not. I wouldn't want people to be worried about me.

[ilovellamas]

And is that supposed to be a bad thing? I really hate people who always look unhappy. I don't care if they are really sad or not. If they are my friends they know that I care and feel bad for them and I think it's so selfish to do it. I don't know, I always try to look happy even though I am not. I wouldn't want people to be worried about me.

I don't think either of us were saying it's a bad thing. At least, I don't think it's bad. Just because you're not happy doesn't mean you should wear your unhappiness on your sleeve. I also do not parade around when I'm having a bad day or whatever. If today's not good, I shouldn't be bringing down others around me just because of that.

[Bazza]

If today's not good, I shouldn't be bringing down others around me just because of that.

I think, especially with me, if I have a bad day people will notice even if I'm not actively expressing it. And likewise if you're having an extremely good day people will notice.

[Nina]

I guess finding a balance is what everyone wishes to do. I personally hate it when people just say "lol keep smiling" after your mom died or something. I mean, if it's so horrible to be around that person, then just dont be, instead of telling them to shut up.
But on the other hand I sooo agree with Per. A lot of people pity themselves a whole lot, and it's annoying when there is nothing to worry about. Thankfully I cant say I've met many people who were like that.

[Bazza]

When people say "chin-up" that irritates me...

I wonder if your outlook on life has anything to do with this. Are all positive/optimistic people truly happy?

[Paint_It_Black]

I don't know, I always try to look happy even though I am not. I wouldn't want people to be worried about me.

But what if they can tell you're just pretending to be happy, don't you think they'd then be worried about what might be wrong? And start wondering if you're always sad when you seem happy? And start hiding the razor blades and explosive vests?

Also, happy people can be just as annoying as sad people. Personally I like to be emotionally neutral whenever possible.

[Yatesy]

Yeah I'd say so, I do get annoyed at work but I pretty much forget about that once I'm on the bus home.

[Bazza]

I normally don't enjoy work, but my day was brightened up yesterday when I found out my manager, whom I hate (and I think he hates me) is leaving :D

[ilovellamas]

I guess finding a balance is what everyone wishes to do. I personally hate it when people just say "lol keep smiling" after your mom died or something. I mean, if it's so horrible to be around that person, then just dont be, instead of telling them to shut up.
But on the other hand I sooo agree with Per. A lot of people pity themselves a whole lot, and it's annoying when there is nothing to worry about. Thankfully I cant say I've met many people who were like that.

I don't think that others should have a say in how you present your feelings, but most of the time, I don't think those things are often said in all seriousness. Usually when people say that to me, I take it as a, "I really hope that this doesn't really get you down too much, because I hate to see you sad", than a "I hate it when people act sad around me". But I guess it's because I'm so overly optimistic? I dunno...

When people say "chin-up" that irritates me...

I wonder if your outlook on life has anything to do with this. Are all positive/optimistic people truly happy?

I don't know. I don't usually feel like my friends who are less happy have crappier lives than I do (and I'm quite optimistic). So, I guess from my perspective, it seems like often times it does matter what your outlook is. I'm not saying this is always the case, but it does make a difference.

But what if they can tell you're just pretending to be happy, don't you think they'd then be worried about what might be wrong? And start wondering if you're always sad when you seem happy? And start hiding the razor blades and explosive vests?

Also, happy people can be just as annoying as sad people. Personally I like to be emotionally neutral whenever possible.

How are happy people annoying? :-/

[Eccentric Sara]

Also, happy people can be just as annoying as sad people. Personally I like to be emotionally neutral whenever possible.
Yes,ppl who are happy ALL the time seem so fake,as noone is happy all day,every day! And what's more,ppl like that patronise me for being depressed and say things like "It can't be that bad!" etc when they actually know fuck all about what's going on in my head or what I'm going through.They think they're better than me because they're happy and I'm not.I'm not saying I want other ppl to be unhappy,I just wish ppl wouldn't be so smug about it when they are happy and would try to understand depression a bit more.

[killer_queen]

But what if they can tell you're just pretending to be happy, don't you think they'd then be worried about what might be wrong? And start wondering if you're always sad when you seem happy? And start hiding the razor blades and explosive vests?

Also, happy people can be just as annoying as sad people. Personally I like to be emotionally neutral whenever possible.

Obviously we have different definitions for being happy. For me, being happy doesn't mean smiling all the time, jumping around and stuff. For me, being not sad is being happy. That's why people can never tell that I'm pretending.

And I'm not saying that this has to be done all the time. Of course people should act like however they feel like (lolz, I sound like offspring) and don't hide their sadness with a fake smile. But you have to admit that it gets really annoying when they are unahappy all the time. especially when they don't tell you what's wrong.

[Sunny]

the only things that could make me happier than i am now are sleep and lots of money, so yes, i'm happy. wew.

something i've realized: people hate seeing other people happy, because it "annoys" them. and people hate seeing other people sad, because it makes them uncomfortable. in conclusion, people suck ass. :)

[Paint_It_Black]

Have you never met one of those totally hyper happy people? Their incessant, over the top cheerfulness is incredibly draining. I just want to slap them to remove the enormous, retarded permanent grin. They look on the bright side of everything, always always always manage to hope for the best, and see the "good in everyone". It's completely obnoxious.

[endlesst0m]

It's not a matter of being privelidged. Essentially it's a matter of how much freedom your life allows you, and how much you've allowed your life to give you as well.

So would I be correct in saying that it's the people that don't seize existing opportunities that annoy you?

Whenever I'm unhappy, I find that if I think into it enough, my unhappiness often stems from comparing myself to other people. When I compare myself to people who I feel have had about the same opportunities as me, that's when I get jealous, angry, confused, and just plain unhappy.So basically, even if I know that I have more opportunity than other people around the world, I can still become unhappy when I compare myself to other people around me.

[Eccentric Sara]

Have you never met one of those totally hyper happy people? Their incessant, over the top cheerfulness is incredibly draining. I just want to slap them to remove the enormous, retarded permanent grin. They look on the bright side of everything, always always always manage to hope for the best, and see the "good in everyone". It's completely obnoxious.
Totally!:D I lived with one in my third year of uni. We are no longer speaking.:rolleyes:

[ilovellamas]

I hate it when people claim that happy people are fake. It's a matter of looking past the imperfections of life and looking at what's good in life. Bad things happen in my life all the time, and I have my ways of dealing with them. It's not like I pretend everything is 100% perfect, but there's no reason for me to dwell in what sucks. I'd rather bask in what's good. Most of my friends and I have always gotten shit throughout our lives for being "fake" or "too nice" (for me it's only been the past 3 or 4 years, cause I used to be terribly unhappy), and it's really annoying because we genuinely *are* happy.

edit: richard, is your post as sarcastic as I think/hope it is?

[Nina]

But who hates seeing people happy?
I agree with Richard, there is something slightly awful about people who are always too optimistic. Being realistic is so much easier, so why not do that? Not everything is GREAT. If everyone thought that we couldnt ever improve ourselves.

[Paint_It_Black]

Obviously we have different definitions for being happy. For me, being happy doesn't mean smiling all the time, jumping around and stuff. For me, being not sad is being happy. That's why people can never tell that I'm pretending.

And I'm not saying that this has to be done all the time. Of course people should act like however they feel like (lolz, I sound like offspring) and don't hide their sadness with a fake smile. But you have to admit that it gets really annoying when they are unahappy all the time. especially when they don't tell you what's wrong.

Ok yeah, we probably go by slightly different definitions. I think of sad and happy as being the polar opposites, and aim to spend most of my time in the general contentment of the middleground.

I think any excessive amount of emotion is annoying, be it happiness, sadness, whatever.

[Grabbal]

Have you never met one of those totally hyper happy people? Their incessant, over the top cheerfulness is incredibly draining. I just want to slap them to remove the enormous, retarded permanent grin. They look on the bright side of everything.

I have and it's my neighbour on top of it all. He's always hyper happy and loves school cause he's learning about such cool things. He is 17 and on a normal day he usually rides his bike and makes "ROOM ROOM" sounds. It makes me sick.

PS: Also slightly retarded.

[Sunny]

Have you never met one of those totally hyper happy people? Their incessant, over the top cheerfulness is incredibly draining. I just want to slap them to remove the enormous, retarded permanent grin. They look on the bright side of everything, always always always manage to hope for the best, and see the "good in everyone". It's completely obnoxious.

well, yes, i've met people like that. and yes, it is annoying as hell. but there is a difference between "happy" and retarded, manic, x-popping kinda cheerful. =p and from what i've seen, people don't handle the regular "happy" all that well either. they either think you're a bitch, or bragging, or trying to make them feel bad. egh.

i come from a country where everyone walks around with a face like ":[" or ">:E", so seeing people smile and act somewhat pleased with life is kinda a nice surprise.

[Paint_It_Black]

edit: richard, is your post as sarcastic as I think/hope it is?

No, it's not. But I'm only talking about very extreme individuals. My overall point here is that anything, when taken to an extreme, is fucking annoying. I am not attacking you or people like you, there's nothing wrong with generally being positive or whatever. Believe me, you aren't like the type of person I was describing.

[killer_queen]

Have you never met one of those totally hyper happy people? Their incessant, over the top cheerfulness is incredibly draining. I just want to slap them to remove the enormous, retarded permanent grin. They look on the bright side of everything, always always always manage to hope for the best, and see the "good in everyone". It's completely obnoxious.

You have no idea about how cute and adorable you sound, do you? <3

I have no problem with those kind of people as long as they are not my bestest friends or family. They can make you feel very good when you spend a couple of hours on your bad days.

[Paint_It_Black]

but there is a difference between "happy" and retarded, manic, x-popping kinda cheerful. =p

Yeah, I keep trying to make it clear that I fully get that. Regular happy is fine. And while I'm at it, I'll say again that I tend to exaggerate and do not inherently distrust all people who appear happy.

And this is just a general disclaimer, not an actual reply to Sunny.

[Paint_It_Black]

You have no idea about how cute and adorable you sound, do you? <3

Well, I was aiming for just a little :P

[ilovellamas]

haha, okay I know what you're talking about. My cousin is like that and she's fucking insane.

[Offspring-Junkie]

Wow, so many answers. Well, I know a hyper happy person too, but the opposite is as annoying, either. Just to claim "Life's so unfair!" and to live in one's own misery is stupid. Right now I'm feeling very melancholic. I just don't care about anything at all. No girl, no job, no problem, but still not happy:( .

[H1T_That]

Happiness is so overrated.

[wheelchairman]

So would I be correct in saying that it's the people that don't seize existing opportunities that annoy you?



hmm. Nope. If you mean these opportunities are ever-present, and that it would help these people create a change in their life for the positive, without creating an equally negative reaction, then yeah.

[Duskygrin]

No, I'm not happy.

I'm not happy for the reason that I'm dissatisfied with what I have. And long for things I do not have. When I say things, I don't mean material possessions necessarily. Those don't make you happy; look at the fat cats gorging themselves on caviar on their yachts & succumbing to a malady of ennui & cynicism.

I'm not a pro piano player. I'm not a pro finance student. Time is not on my side. I'm not in love with anyone - & what feelings I have for a certain somebody are making me mad, making me utterly, wildly mad... he's not here, not here beside me.

Time is not on my side. I'm soon to be 20 and already I've fallen behind in so many of my dreams. Ah, to be 20. There's a French song... When you're 20 you think you're the king of the world... and forever the blue sky will be in your eyes... But you're only 20 for such a little, such a little time. It's like quicksilver through your hands. And life goes on, you're falling still further and further behind your dreams. You realize you're failing, little by little, inch by inch, hairbreadth by hairbreadth, to fulfill your potential. You realize you've forgotten in your egocentricism to hold the beauty of life in your hands. And what is done is done, and what is past is past and you can't turn back, and those moments which you scoffed at come back to haunt you. There's a saying in French: You recognize happiness by the noise it makes when it leaves. And that's when you realize you could have been happy if you had understood what life was all about. But you misconstrued life's meaning, you sought to capture things that were quite out of reach, and you made light of what life offered you, and then it's too late. And too many times, too many times, I made light of what friends and men offered me.

Yesterday when I was young, the taste of life was sweet as rain upon my tongue, I teased at life as if it were a foolish game, the way the evening breeze may tease a candle flame...
The thousand dreams I dreamed, the splendid things I planned, I always built alas on weak and shifting sand, I lived by night and shunned the naked light of day, and only now I see how the years ran away...
Yesterday when I was young, so many drinking songs were waiting to be sung, so many wayward pleasures lay in store for me, and so much pain my dazzled eyes refused to see...
I ran so fast that time and youth at last ran out, I never stopped to think what life was all about, and every conversation I can now recall concerned itself with me, me, and nothing else at all...
Yesterday, the moon was blue, and every crazy day brought something new to do, I used my magic age as if it were a wand, I never saw the waste and emptiness beyond, the game of love I played with arrogance and pride, and every flame I lit too quickly quickly died, the friends I made all seemed somehow to drift away, and only I am left on stage to end the play...
There are so many songs in me that won't be sung, I feel the hidden taste of tears upon my tongue, the time has come for me to pay for yesterday, when I was young... young... young

[JohnnyNemesis]

I lol'd.

[German Andres]

Man, I feel happy. I have always done what I wanted, I`m the way I want and I have a family. Why should I be unhappy?

[Eccentric Sara]

Duskygrin,I totally see where you're coming from!

[Lodat225]

I don't need the synthetic feeling of happiness to feel good.

I'm alright. I want to move out soon.

[Betty]

I'm happy! I consider myself a happy person. But not happy like the people that Richard dislikes because I am also EMOTIONLESS. No, I'm not actually, but in the same way that I have a hard time being sad about things I can have a hard time being incredibly excited/happy about things, or at least SHOWING that happiness. I'm fairly even-tempered most of the time. And I'm fairly serious. But definitely happy.

I think I agree with Bri about a lot of things she said.

I actually have a really hard time with depressed people since I always want to say "buck up old chap," but obviously wouldn't say something that ridiculous. I'd like to think the reason I'm happy is because I've learned to control my emotions. Obviously, having an awesome life, or considering my life to be awesome helps too, but whether that comes purely from luck/privilege or large from personal choices I cannot say, but I'd rather think there's a good bit of the latter involved.

I think Tom has an interesting point:


Whenever I'm unhappy, I find that if I think into it enough, my unhappiness often stems from comparing myself to other people. When I compare myself to people who I feel have had about the same opportunities as me, that's when I get jealous, angry, confused, and just plain unhappy.So basically, even if I know that I have more opportunity than other people around the world, I can still become unhappy when I compare myself to other people around me.

I would very much agree with this and I'm mostly only bummed out when I think about how some people have more interesting lives than I do, have more friends than I do, are more interesting than I am, etc, etc. And then I question my own life choices, etc. But I have to realize there's generally a tradeoff and there life is gonna have to suck in some ways too.

Also, relationships can bum me out when they hit rocky parts, that's definitely one of the only things that bothers me.

[JoY]

When people say "chin-up" that irritates me...

I wonder if your outlook on life has anything to do with this. Are all positive/optimistic people truly happy?

especially when nothing's the matter & you're just walking around with your face set on "chill", but have such low eyebrows, that people constantly mistake relaxed facial muscles for being down.


I'm generally very happy. especially in comparison to how it's been & how I've been. some things I'm not too pleased with, some things could be a whole fuckload better, some things aren't going exactly splendid, but I love my life & many many aspects of it, so yes.. I'm generally happy. it's actually exactly like Tizz said.

hey, I can't control the elements & I can't control every course of events that involves me.. the fact I have a lot of difficulties controling/structuring my life sometimes makes me less happy than usual (& then even the most tiny little things can make me majorly pissed off at myself, like yesterday), but essentially that's not going to change, so I suppose then it's all about acceptance. I believe most things are.

[JoY]

well, yes, i've met people like that. and yes, it is annoying as hell. but there is a difference between "happy" and retarded, manic, x-popping kinda cheerful. =p and from what i've seen, people don't handle the regular "happy" all that well either. they either think you're a bitch, or bragging, or trying to make them feel bad. egh.

i come from a country where everyone walks around with a face like ":[" or ">:E", so seeing people smile and act somewhat pleased with life is kinda a nice surprise.

duuude, late response to this & makes me make a double post too, but I wanted to tell you how much I agree.

well, about the last bit; the Dutch don't look >:E all that much, but it kinda suits our "down-to-earth" reputation to walk around with a pokerface 24/7. you know those hysterical American shows in which people get a shitload of money, or a new house & just cry their eyes out with happiness? that kind of stuff can't really be done here. a monotone "yay" & two arms in the air don't really make good television.

people mostly look.. indifferent here. & if you look happy, you often come off as arrogant, or a fake barbiedoll, who's got her smile painted on her face. like, "oh yeah, like YOUR life's oh so perfect, pffft". well no, it isn't. but I like it non the less, so boo@u.

I also love it when it makes them feel the urge to point out the things in your life that are not going absolutely smoothly. comments as; "so.. I heard you fighting with your boyfriend last night. crisis with the man, eh?", in a non-caring manner just to hear you out on what's going not too well, when you were discussing something as irrelevant as pants, or whatever.

[bananaphone]

I wouldn't say "happy", more like content with life. I have nothing serious to moan about, just the usual worries that bother most people.

yeah, not exactly happy, but content.