Are you outgoing?

[Wolfbutter]

When you are in certain places like school, work or wherever, do you find yourself talking to others a lot, in a good way? Or do you just kind've sit back and be shy? Whatever you do, why? If you changed, what were you like before and why did you change?

I would consider myself pretty half and half. I talk a lot to the people I know, but to the people I don't know, it's kind've hard. You know, those times when you think you'll say something dumb or whatever.

[TBD]

You're not outgoing then.

[Andy]

Well there sure are some classic threads being thrown up lately.

[wheelchairman]

I like them. Although I don't think we should have too many...

I'm rather outgoing in English. Such is the nature of American English.

I used to be rather shy in Danish. I still don't suddenly volunteer information much, but I've gotten over the shyness and not afraid to meet new people or have them here my accent. Hell I meet new people all the time at the local bar.

oh shit i pathetic.

[BREAK]

I oscillate between strongly unapproachable and merely antisocial.

[Bazza]

In general, with a group situation I'm quite shy. I tend to sit back and listen, especially when there are people I don't know around. If it's a small group of people I know well then tend tos be a bit more outgoing. I'm definitely not an extrovert.

[Rag Doll]

For the most part, I'm pretty outgoing, especially according to just about everyone I've worked with in the past 2 years. I never used to be, though. If I'm around a lot of other "big personalities" or outgoing people, I tend to be pretty quiet.

[TBD]

I'm outgoing on the internetz.

[mrconeman]

Like most people, around my friends I'll say or do just about anything that comes to mind, so I'll be outgoing in the right company.

In a room full of people I don't know (which these days is actually quite alot) I'll likely keep myself to myself. However if someone starts to talk to me, I'm not usually shy about it and could probably carry a conversation.

But no, I'm definitely not an extrovert and I'm shy/quiet alot of the time. I'm not as bad as I used to be, hopefully I'm getting over it.

[Whiplash]

I guess I'm pretty outgoing, I talk to allot of people I don't know. I like meeting new people.

[Lodat225]

Sort of. I don't talk to people I don't know, only my friends and people i like.

maybe i'm not.

[killer_queen]

I don't know. I really don't meet a lot of people and I definitely don't talk to strangers but I'm not shy, that's for sure.

My problem is the people. The people are just fucking stupid. I know it sounds very arrogant but really. I don't know if it's cultural or if it's special to my generation but it's just impossible to have a decent conversation with young people. Like, if there is a girl at my school and I have seen her a couple of times and I just go and say "hi, how are you?" and she looks at me like I just asked her to move in with me. I've had a lot of experiences like that and I feel tired now. I'm just hanging out with my old friends. But I'm not happy with it.

[Sunny]

i'm very outgoing in professional situations. i find it to be more beneficial than keeping to myself.

in social situations, especially around a lot of people i don't know, i tend to keep quiet. however, i used to always think of myself as quiet and shy, yet lately i've noticed i talk a lot more/i'm a lot more outgoing than other people i know. i've caught myself feeling like a loud obnoxious mf.

which i very well might be! :D

[ruroken]

Like most people, around my friends I'll say or do just about anything that comes to mind, so I'll be outgoing in the right company.

In a room full of people I don't know (which these days is actually quite alot) I'll likely keep myself to myself. However if someone starts to talk to me, I'm not usually shy about it and could probably carry a conversation.

I'm exactly the same way, except that I have a terrible time carrying a conversation with someone I don't know really well.

[JoY]

it really depends on the situation & how comfortable I feel in it. if I feel comfortable, I am very outgoing. if I don't, I say the most retarded things & just kind of shut up after that, or try to rectify it by saying even more stupid shit. but yeah, I'm a talker. I talk a lot & love having people around me & being in a social setting, even if I'm not talking at all.

[Izie]

I'm generally loud and obnoxious (mean Sunny stole my definition of me *upset*). If it's a business/school thing I try to be less obnoxious.

Unless I'm tired or the people are stupid/socially inept. Then I just zone out completely.

[Tizzalicious]

it really depends on the situation & how comfortable I feel in it. if I feel comfortable, I am very outgoing. if I don't, I say the most retarded things & just kind of shut up after that, or try to rectify it by saying even more stupid shit. but yeah, I'm a talker. I talk a lot & love having people around me & being in a social setting, even if I'm not talking at all.

I'm a lot like that.

And I'm not shy at all around random people I don't know at all and will never see again, or people that I know well and feel comfortable with. But people I "half know", like friends of friends...eeeee, I get really uncomfortable then.

[Nina]

i'm very outgoing in professional situations. i find it to be more beneficial than keeping to myself.


Same here.

In private I am shy. I used to think otherwise but the more I observed my behavior the more I realized that I am, indeed, shy. I dont like talking about problems with my family, my friends, or my boyfriend. I'd rather have a quiet day at home than going to a concert. I dont like presenting my taste in music.
When I am with people who my family or my friends or my bf knows but I dont, I tend to get extremely shy. I am concerned about not embarrassing my loved ones. And It actually works.

The only person who I am 100% comfortable with is my boyfriend. As mentioned I dont like taking about problems, but we'll always end up doing it and working things out perfectly.

But on the other hand I am extremely social. Prefering a night in to a concert doesnt mean I dont like concerts. I love having gatherings and cooking together, watching movies together or playing board games. I love to go out and party. I love to dress up and go to a fancy dinner. I love to meet family. I love weddings (!), and I love, seriously love to dance, it's one of those things I am not embarrassed about because I know how to move mah body.

[Sunny]

I'm generally loud and obnoxious (mean Sunny stole my definition of me *upset*). If it's a business/school thing I try to be less obnoxious.

Unless I'm tired or the people are stupid/socially inept. Then I just zone out completely.

you shut it, missy. that definition fits us *both* perfectly. p;

when faced with the social ineptitude of others, i try to compensate (at first) by talking more, making jokes, trying to pull the person into the conversation. it gets tiresome quickly, though, so i zone out too and just go x_x.

[Sinister]

I'm generally not very outgoing, but substances very quickly make me more outgoing than anyone else, even if the someone else happens to be very outgoing in normal circumstances.

[Camel Filters]

I'm not very out going. When I'm at work I usually don't talk to anyone and I just do my work. I also don't talk a lot when there is a lot of people around me.

[wheelchairman]

Then the question should be, do you want to be outgoing?

If so (and you replied no), what's stopping you?

[0r4ng3]

That's actually a very good question. I've always wanted to be more outgoing, but I constantly wonder if people want me around or not, so I tend to stay away. Unfortunately I follow the philosophy "it's better to be too far than to be too close". Plus I have a bunch of other problems that I'd rather not get into right now.

[Sin Studly]

My sensitive poetic soul says I'm deep and intraspective, but the scars on my face say I'm an obnoxious abrasive asshole. Which I am.

[Offspring-Junkie]

Depends in which mood I am. At least I'm more outgoing now.