French Fry Ordeal

[bighead384]

I have this friend who is a socially retarded but extra polite kind of guy. We were at a diner last night, and he orders chicken quesidillas. The waiter informs him that the quesidillas come with fries. He tells the waiter he doesn't want the fries. The waiter, who was kind of friendly with us, is like "You sure? They come free with your order". He still insists he doesn't want them. Then I chime in "Yea! Just get em', I'll eat them". So he eventually agrees, and asks for the fries for me. So our food comes, and he looks at the fries, and he's like "Wow, these are the good kind that are extra crispy. Now I want them". He doesn't say "Sorry, I have to go back on what I said" or anything. He just grins and slides the fries away from me. He doesn't even offer to share them. Then, he finishes eating and there are a few fries left. He doesn't even offer me those! I ask him, and he has the audacity to mock me about wanting the extra fries! WTF, we had an agreement. Isn't that worth anything?!

I hate to admit it, but I must. Things like these irritate me a little bit. Especially cause this particular friend thinks he's the king of proper and polite conduct.

[Duskygrin]

First of, what ARE quesidillas?

[bighead384]

First of, what ARE quesidillas?

I spelled it wrong.

Edit: Wait, no I didn't. I thought you were just trying to give me a hard time about spelling it wrong. Uh...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quesadilla

[Free?]

Haha, what a jerk. How can you call him polite after that?

[zsk]

I have this friend who is a socially retarded but extra polite kind of guy. We were at a diner last night, and he orders chicken quesidillas. The waiter informs him that the quesidillas come with fries. He tells the waiter he doesn't want the fries. The waiter, who was kind of friendly with us, is like "You sure? They come free with your order". He still insists he doesn't want them. Then I chime in "Yea! Just get em', I'll eat them". So he eventually agrees, and asks for the fries for me. So our food comes, and he looks at the fries, and he's like "Wow, these are the good kind that are extra crispy. Now I want them". He doesn't say "Sorry, I have to go back on what I said" or anything. He just slides the fries away from me. He doesn't even offer to share them. Then, he finishes eating and there a few fries left. He doesn't even offer me those! I ask him, and he has the audacity to mock me about wanting the extra fries! WTF, we had an agreement. Isn't that worth anything?!

I hate to admit it, but I must. Things like these irritate me a little bit. Especially cause this particular friend thinks he's the king of proper and polite conduct.

hmm french fries

[bighead384]

Haha, what a jerk. How can you call him polite after that?

Glad you agree. I thought someone might try and tell me he paid for them so he gets the final say no matter what.


He does try to be polite most of the time. He's just a dunce. My one friend claims "he has his own essence of being". And he's right...you kinda would have to know him to understand him.

[Duskygrin]

Oh right, but you did spell it wrong, you spelled it quesidilla instead of quesadilla, I had an inkling it was the latter but still wasn't sure what it meant, althought I supposed it had sth to do with *retches* melted cheese (queso in Spanish). Thanks for the wikipedying, and you're not supposed to eat too many fries anyway, it's carcinogenic and fattening and artery-clogging.

And apparently liking fries can lead to big-time arguments. Why didn't you just slap him, then if he retaliated poured the remaining of the fries on his head and stuffed some more in his big mouth? That'd have been manly behaviour. Instead you come complaining on the board. Surely that won't help you too much, will it? Unless you act, your relations with that asshole won't improve. Actually, unless HE improves, it's not going to get better, because I don't see you suddenly stooping to his level. You clearly have a contemptuous view of him. Let it rest at that, and move on to pastures new and people you like better, and leave that shitheap wallowing in his ketchup.

( I don't really mean all of that)

[Jebus]

I don't see anything wrong with what he did.

[Duskygrin]

Not even with reneging on his word, and then NOT offering the extras?

Sounds a tadge churlish to me.

[jacknife737]

I don't see anything wrong with what he did.

Same here, i mean, he did pay for them, and they were from his order. Sorry, i just don't see what the big deal is.

[T-6005]

I am hungry.

[bighead384]

Same here, i mean, he did pay for them, and they were from his order. Sorry, i just don't see what the big deal is.

No, it's a BIG DEAL when it comes to french fries. I don't even think I should be friends with him anymore. And to anyone who thought this was a lighthearted outlet for a slightly frustrating situation. YOU'RE DEAD WRONG.

[Cock Joke]

You never touch another man's.........french fries!!!




NEVAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111111111

[bighead384]

I don't see anything wrong with what he did.

He went back on his agreement without apologizing, AND failed to make an easy compromise?

[Bipolar Bear]

You probably should have talked to him about it. In 90% of the cases, a lack of communication only makes problems worse. Tell him how you feel about it. Don't go smashing his fries in his face though it's not worth it...that's not manly it's just plain stupid. Really, just tell him what he did if he didn't realize it. If you don't, he'll never even know he did anything bad. In his mind, they were just french friends and he probably didn't think it upset you that much, and forgot about it a short time after.

Of course, it'd probably look weird now if you went up to him and said, "hey, remember that time at the restaurant when you told me I could have your fries and you went back on your word? Well that fucking upset me." Tell him right away next time, if he's a guy you can tell him that shit and he'll understand. (Unlike girls who are like either "nah im always right i hate you!" or "ohh im so sorry -nearly starts crying-". Yeah that's bout it.

[bighead384]

But I don't really care. I just thought it would be funny. And I wanted to see if anyone would actually take his side on the matter. Unfortunately, I was right!

[zsk]

I am hungry.

hmm i too!!!!

[Bipolar Bear]

But I don't really care. I just thought it would be funny. And I wanted to see if anyone would actually take his side on the matter. Unfortunately, I was right!

Haha okay
It sounded like you cared if you made a thread here.
Personally I wouldn't have cared either.

[Duskygrin]

well, I don't know, somebody stuffing their faces in front of you, that somebody having promised you a share of his meal. is that on the level, really?

[bighead384]

Haha okay
It sounded like you cared if you made a thread here.
Personally I wouldn't have cared either.

I guess it must if more than a few people interpreted it that way. I just thought it would be funny in a "Curb Your Enthusiasm" kind of way.

[wheelchairman]

Generally among my friends there is a degree of sharing. Not like a whole lot of sharing or anything. But I certainly can't eat an entire meal, or anything, so I'm often prone to offer most of my fries to a friend. (I love fries so I'll take some).

the only problem occurs is when another friend is a chronic taker and never gives, but I haven't experienced this problem since high school.

[Budzy]

I am William Wallace, and before me, I see a whole ARMY of my countrymen here to battle the English. Ay, fight and you may die, run and you'll live. At least a while. And dying in your beds many years from now, would you be willing to trade all the days from this day to that for one chance, just one chance to come back here and tell our enemies that they may take our lives.... but they'll never take our FRENCH FRIES!!!!!!

[Paint_It_Black]

No, it's a BIG DEAL when it comes to french fries. I don't even think I should be friends with him anymore. And to anyone who thought this was a lighthearted outlet for a slightly frustrating situation. YOU'RE DEAD WRONG.

I liked this.

But, uh, I can see both sides. This actually is a very interesting question, oddly enough. So the guy who ordered the fries, he still sees them as his because he's paying for them and they come with his order. That's understandable. But you see them as yours, because they had been offered to you. However, they only became yours on the basis that he didn't want them. When he realized that he did in fact want them I would have to say that the ownership of the fries then remains with the guy paying for them. Yes, if I had to make an actual judgment on this, that is how I would rule. But a polite person who tends to think of others should have realized the complicated nature of the situation and shared them.

Summary. I would have shared them, but I can't exactly say the guy was wrong. Oh wait. The fries were put in front of you, and then he took them away again? I forgot that bit. That makes a difference for me. He should have let you keep them in that case.

Why do I find this to be such a fascinating question?

[PilZ-E]

I probably would have shared them, but I'm cool with him taking his fries.

[bighead384]

I think that fact that french fries are easily shared adds a whole other dynamic to this situation that you guys are overlooking. Especially considering that he went back on an agreement we had, and he wouldn't have ANY fries in the first place if it wasn't for me.

(Note: I'm arguing my point, but it's still just for fun)

[Betty]

I kinda agree with Richard that it's a pretty fascinating social interaction.

Usually with my friends, I don't wait for them to offer the fries; I just take them. Or confirm that I can grab some and then take them.

I think the worst part of the whole situation is if the friend didn't even realize or acknowledge that it was a situation.

[bighead384]

I think the worst part of the whole situation is if the friend didn't even realize or acknowledge that it was a situation.

This.

If he would've just apologized for going back on his word, or even if he just verbally acknowledged the possible unfairness of the situation, I would've just given him the benefit of the doubt and forgotten about it.

[Betty]

That's called lack of social skills. It's frustrating in general.

[wheelchairman]

Maartje's mom is making steak with pepper sauce and french fries for dinner. In Holland they dip the fries in mayonnaise.

Man I love vacation.

[Duskygrin]

I think that fact that french fries are easily shared adds a whole other dynamic to this situation that you guys are overlooking. Especially considering that he went back on an agreement we had, and he wouldn't have ANY fries in the first place if it wasn't for me.

(Note: I'm arguing my point, but it's still just for fun)

A whole other dynamic?

Did I ever say, I love you?

[ad8]

...but I thought they were called FREEDOM fries...

[Duskygrin]

In all fairness, they ought to be called Belgian.

[wheelchairman]

Everyone knows that Belgium and Freedom don't mix.

[Duskygrin]

*sings* oh but for chips aaaaaand for freedom I could die!

[Paint_It_Black]

In Holland they dip the fries in mayonnaise.

Real mayonnaise, I presume?

It's definitely the best thing to dip fries in. Ketchup is for homeless people.

And Miracle Whip should be banned, or at least have "NOT MAYONNAISE" printed in large letters on the jar.

[Omni]

I don't get what the big deal is. I'd have just called him an asshat or a dickhole or something and then gone about my day. Or I'd have just ordered my own french fries if I were still hungry.

Or you could be passive-aggressive about it and refuse to offer him anything or eat in front of him while he's doing without.

[Oxygene]

Ketchup is for homeless people.

Biggest r/l LOL on the bbs since RAFRAG was released :)

Omg.. I was totally blind sided by that.

EIther way, I think what the dude did is totally fucking unacceptable. I hate when I set my mind on eating something and that gets short changed which leads to all sorts of socially awkward moments of ordering again, the waiter thinking I'm a slob 'cause I'm fat... there's an episode of Seinfeld in there somehwere. Anyway, I have this issue with my gf sometimes, 'cause I'm like do you want his and that or whatever, and she'll be like no. Then she'll eat half of mine. Don't get me wrong, if we could only afford one portion I'd let her have all of mine, but as long as we're in the restaurant to have a hardy meal, and she's free to order whatever she wants, she shouldn't comfort herself by the fact that I had just saved some money 'cause she didn't order a portion. I'd rather pay for more doggie bag it home, eat some the next day, and leave well fed, then pay for less not eat enough and sit through a movie starving.

I would've told my friend to fuck off, when he would've reached for the fries.

[ilovellamas]

Seems like a dick move to me... weren't you the guy who got in an accident with a friend and the friend tried to get money from you? You seem to have a lot of crappy friends. :-/

[Oxygene]

Ketchup is for homeless people.


I read it again, and I'm still laughing out loud.. dear lord, there should a band called that, or an album at least or something..

I can't stop laughing my mom thought I'm fucking crazy when I told her what I was laughing about

[ilovellamas]

I dip fries in ranch, usually. Unless I'm at Arby's in which case I dip them in their three pepper sauce.

[wheelchairman]

Real mayonnaise, I presume?

It's definitely the best thing to dip fries in. Ketchup is for homeless people.

And Miracle Whip should be banned, or at least have "NOT MAYONNAISE" printed in large letters on the jar.

No no, not fake mayonnaise, God no. Everything pales in comparison to french fries and mayonnaise. Ketchup really just pales in comparison.

[Paint_It_Black]

I dip fries in ranch, usually. Unless I'm at Arby's in which case I dip them in their three pepper sauce.

Damn it Brianna, when at Arby's the correct sauce to use is always horsey sauce. Do you say these things just to ruin my day or what?

Actually, your ranch comment was acceptable. And I have not tried this three pepper sauce of which you speak. I'll be going now.


I can't stop laughing my mom thought I'm fucking crazy when I told her what I was laughing about

Well, that's justified my existence. Thanks, crazy dude.

[wheelchairman]

Actually there's this burger place I go to that has this garlic/mayonnaise sauce stuff. french fries go really well with that.

[Paint_It_Black]

Anything that is essentially flavored mayonnaise has a good chance of being acceptable.

Well, obviously not anything. Let's not go there.

Though I used to have this tendency to mix all kinds of things together in one huge disgusting mess, just on the off chance that it could in fact be good. And to piss other people off, of course. I would defend myself by pointing out that someone, somewhere, discovered the PB&J and was probably scoffed at too.

[Free?]

This thread should be renamed to "Read before eating" and stickied!
Everytime I read something here my mouth getting filled with hungry saliva.

[Oxygene]

Well, that's justified my existence. Thanks, crazy dude.

I'm really thinking of siging that.. but I don't do sigs so I'm kinda torn.
Then again I've never read anything so deep on these boards either :)

I still laugh when I read it again :)

[ilovellamas]

Damn it Brianna, when at Arby's the correct sauce to use is always horsey sauce. Do you say these things just to ruin my day or what?

Actually, your ranch comment was acceptable. And I have not tried this three pepper sauce of which you speak. I'll be going now.



Well, that's justified my existence. Thanks, crazy dude.

Horsey sauce is fine, and if they didn't have the pepper sauce, I'd dip my fries in horsey sauce.

Hmm I think I might stop at Arby's on the way to my friend's house later. I totally want some three pepper sauce now, haha.

[bighead384]

I don't get what the big deal is. I'd have just called him an asshat or a dickhole or something and then gone about my day. Or I'd have just ordered my own french fries if I were still hungry.


I guess I'll have to repeat myself. This isn't just a big deal. This is a REALLY big deal. And don't even try to call me out on it.

[bighead384]

Blah blah blah. At the end of the day, there's not one reason under the sun to act the way my friend acted and not even offer to share the fries. If you think otherwise, I just can't trust your judgment.